The fear of rejection is one of the most common fears for people. It’s worrying about losing approval from others, the longing to be accepted, and the dread of being alone. This fear has the option to impact prospects, relationships and everyday interactions.

No one is born with the fear of rejection, it’s accumulated by many factors. One of the most determining factors is the lack of confidence and self esteem. Events that happened previously in life could have resulted in the insecurity and doubt of self worth. Another reason for having this irrational fear is being constantly compared to others.

During middle school and the beginning of high school I dealt with this, as I was constantly compared to my best friend. It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough and in order to gain approval from those comparing me, I had to act and look a certain way. Other people’s opinions of me caused me to lose myself and made me think I could not put myself out there to others without being rejected.

Many negative effects can arise from this fear. The inability to share opinions, emulation of others, basing emotions on other people’s feelings, clinginess, and being taken for granted are just a few. One of the most critical things though, is missing out on new opportunities because of past experiences.

As painful as it is, rejection is not the end of the world. Take a deep breath and try to remember that what others think is a reflection of them and not the person. Someone’s way of viewing themselves should not be based on the affection or approval of others. Find a way to be yourself, assert your needs, and voice your opinions. Let go of those that make you feel otherwise.

It’s difficult for people to change the way they feel and step out of their comfort zone right away. However, people who become too afraid of rejection are holding themselves back from something they desire.

The question that matters is whether it is worth it to never try and not face the feeling of being rejected; constantly wondering “what if,” or take a risk and possibly end up getting what you really want.

Sincerely,

Sydney