Emotional abuse is a concept that is commonly misunderstood and neglected. Many do not believe it has any negative affects on someone because it does not leave a physical mark, however this is false. This type of abuse, whether it comes from a family member, friend, or romantic partner has the same amount, if not more, profound consequences than physical abuse.

The dictionary definition of emotional abuse is a type of abuse “characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma.” It’s something no one should experience, but it happens frequently and is has a detrimental effect on teenagers. Psychological abuse goes beyond hurting someone’s feelings and can take a toll over one’s life, destroy relationships and have deleterious effects persistent through adolescence into adulthood.  

This type of abuse can be overshadowed by what others consider as more pressing issues because without the visible signs, it is hard to understand that it is inapt. Belittling, yelling, insulting, threatening, swearing, intimidating, isolating, terrorizing, and denying can all consolidate together to tear down a human being. Especially as a child, adults are quick to minimize the situation or disregard it completely, because “others have it worse.”

Everyone’s feelings are valid and no one has the right to downplay a situation they have not experienced, which is something many don’t understand in regards to the presence of verbal abuse. It is something that leaves a person feeling worthless, untrusting, insignificant, petrified, unlovable, emotionally unattached and though it is their fault.

It can take years to recognize the signs and by the time it’s noticed the damage is already done. Feelings of anger, frustration, and hopelessness are common. By now it’s hard for anyone to accept the fact that it’s not their fault and that they are worth something after enduring the psychological torture of emotional abuse by anyone. It is a topic that should be taken more seriously and discussed more frequently as many are unaware of the lifetime effects it creates for an individual.

Sincerely,

Sydney