Drama. You either love it or hate it.
I think there’s clear differences when it comes to spilling tea and gossip. Either talking badly about someone or talking about someone who treated you badly. And sometimes you can do both, which isn’t good anyway.
It’s honestly a better idea to stay away from drama. Whether it’s causing it or trying to intervene, just don’t.
On one hand, I like hearing about tea sometimes because it spices up conversation nicely. But sometimes it feels more stressful than fun, whether it’s being a part of it or talking about it excessively to the point where it gets old.
There’s some people who like drama and like to start it. People who like to start drama make me frustrated because there could’ve been an easier way to handle the conflict. They want life to be less boring, but it makes things more frustrating in the end most of the time.
Being involved in the drama is bad enough, but someone trying to involve you or ask you to pick sides can be rough too. It just puts way more stress on yourself than it should. If it isn’t your drama then don’t intervene at all, even if it’s your friend. You can provide support without getting involved.
And of course, there’s always the dreaded rumors and gossip.
Seriously, it hurts badly. Even if you’re involved in drama where the opposing person is causing you harm, gossiping about them is still hurtful. You can’t fight fire with fire; it’s just now how life works.
Like I said in the beginning, there’s a huge difference between talking badly about someone and talking about someone who treats you badly. HUGE difference.
Talking to someone you trust about someone who treated you badly isn’t gossip if it’s true. Gossip is making up negative things about someone and spreading it around.
Spilling tea varies in many different ways. Listening to tea isn’t bad, but being involved in gossip or trying to be involved in gossip if it isn’t your problem is straight up annoying.
There are some moments where you should just keep your mouth shut. Even if you have a strong opinion, either tell someone else you trust that isn’t involved or just keep it to yourself.
Just be careful with what you say and who you say it to. You never know who can spread things around and who can’t. Stay out of the way or handle it in a more calm manner if possible. Don’t fuel the fire by making things more difficult than they need to be, whether it’s if you’re involved or not.
