Does popularity really matter?

We all have our own personal insecurities. We worry about how we look, how we act, how we talk to people, etc. A lot of us constantly want to look a certain way so that other people will like you. We worry about how many friends we have, no matter if it’s 1, 5, or 10.

But does that really matter? Do we really have to worry about what people think about you?

If you’re one of those people, you might’ve gotten the phrase, “People are too anxious about themselves to care about you or how you look.” In most cases, that is true. Some people choose to take it out on others as well, which can make you feel worse about yourself.

Why do we worry so much about how other people view you? We want others to feel happy with our presence. We want people to come to you for advice, listen to your stories and opinions, and generally just want to be around you.

That does not mean we need everyone to feel that way.

What I’m trying to say is, it’s almost impossible for everyone in the same building to like you. Some people might think you’re cool and fun, and some might think you’re rude and anti-social. I know I’m not for everyone, and we don’t need to worry about that so much. Everyone has their own opinions.

The worst thing you can do is chase people for their attention by trying to change something about yourself. The phrase “be yourself!” may sound corny to some, but it’s true. No matter what, you can’t change how some people might view you, and that’s okay.

Don’t hang out with people who poke at your insecurities or make you feel like you have to be the same as them or like the same things. You don’t need to abruptly be rude to them about it, but just distance yourself from them and find people you feel most comfortable with.

You don’t need to have such a large group of friends either. If you want to, you can; no one’s stopping you. But constantly feeling pressured to make as many friends as possible and get everyone’s contacts is draining and can hurt your social life more.

A few close friends are better than a thousand acquaintances. The one thing that matters is that your close friends are there to support you and love you no matter what your flaws are. Be who you truly are and don’t pay any mind to the negativity that comes your way.