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Keeping Up with Kanika: you aren’t obligated

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Keeping Up with Kanika: you aren’t obligated

From social issues to stuff happening on campus, senior Kanika Kappalayil provides her take in this weekly column.

From social issues to stuff happening on campus, senior Kanika Kappalayil provides her take in this weekly column.

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From social issues to stuff happening on campus, senior Kanika Kappalayil provides her take in this weekly column.

Juleanna Culilap

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From social issues to stuff happening on campus, senior Kanika Kappalayil provides her take in this weekly column.

Kanika Kappalayil, Staff Reporter

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For a friend in need I will undeniably do whatever I can to be of help.

To me, it’s not an obligation I have as someone’s friend to be of service to them. If you’re important in my life, I will especially focus my time and efforts to be there for you–simply because you matter to me, and I care.

Yet sometimes I feel scared if I’m truly putting forth my effort and demonstrating on my end my investment and commitment to my friendships–that I’m not only flourishing because of the relationships I’ve forged around me, but I’m also giving back equally, if not more.

I become deeply insecure at times over this because I always want to be the best person and dependable friend for the loved ones around me, so much so that I try to keep tabs upon my contributions to my friendships. I never want to be someone “leeching” off others by any means or become a burden.

The thing is though: acts of kindness are not business transactions. It’s not something I should keep track of and tally away. I shouldn’t reduce it to that.

A wise friend of mine told me when we discussed this issue of mine that just as I do favors and help friends simply because I want to, my friends do the same for me.

It’s a simple thought, but something I need to remind and reassure myself of.

There’s no need to be so paranoid over whether I’m putting my 100% into the relationships around me, but that’s easier said than embraced as a mindset.

I think what does help is having open conversations with my friends about this. Communication is really key. Discussing my thoughts and worries has helped me come to terms with this and brought my mind to ease and some peace.

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Kanika Kappalayil, Staff Reporter

Kanika is a senior and is excited to contribute to Wingspan and offer her fresh takes on different topics. In her free time when she’s not taking long...

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