Trying to understand the opposite sex is hard. Coming from a guy’s perspective, trying to understand a singular girl’s actions, words, and mannerisms is a seemingly impossible task. I have never in my 18 years of life accomplished this, no matter how long I’ve known the said female. Whether as a friend or love interest, they have always been and will probably stay a mystery to me.

I’m sure the same can be said for girls trying to understand the actions of boys, but that’s mostly because boys are really really stupid (or at least I am). Even though, I am using broad words to describe entire genders, these descriptions are only from my experiences. I have met plenty of guys that aren’t as stupid as the rest and I’ve met some girls that are far less complicated than the others. I’d hate to classify entire genders by a few words, but I’m about to classify entire genders with a few words.

Girls, in my very subjective opinion, are one of the great mysteries of the world. It would be one thing if they were all the same way but they aren’t, at all. Each one is vastly complicated in their own ways. Some can be very subtle with what they want or how they feel; some can very extremely direct (which is amazing–girls, please do this more often), and some can just not tell you at all.

As a guy, at least for me, when I am in a relationship with a female, I try to make them as happy as I possibly can and try my very best without ruining that for them. I think that can be said for both genders. However, with girls, a vast majority of them simply won’t tell you what makes them happy or what they really want. They like to leave it up to you to figure out, which is a problem because as I said before, guys are insanely stupid. We can hardly put together what we want, let alone figure out a jigsaw puzzle as to what you want. So then in some cases, the girl gets mad because the guy just can’t figure out her Da Vinci Code. And this is all knowing that the said girl likes you. It’s a whole different debacle when it comes to figuring that out. That topic of discussion is so complicated, it can’t be covered without writing a novel.

I believe the complicated issues that arise between genders has gotten worse since technology has become a bigger part of our life. I remember my days as a sophomore, worrying about the girl I liked not texting me back within five minutes and wondering if that meant she didn’t like me. It was stupid, petty things like that that kids our age would look into to see if your love interest was interested in you. Today, I find myself not texting people back or not responding on social media because I am genuinely too busy, and I expect that from the people I am interacting with as well. That being said, I have talked to girls fairly recently that still use these subtle clues to try and tell you something. And I’m sorry, but I am honestly too stupid to pick up on these things, and I think a majority of guys are the same way. So I’m sitting here getting sucked right back into the immature system I thought I left in sophomore year.

Although, girls are the topic of discussion, guys are so dumb, we complicate things in our own ways. We say the wrong things at the wrong time, don’t accommodate others’ feelings, and have the problem solving and planning skills of a potato. These flaws in both genders are what makes a functional relationship such a beautiful thing, and something that we all hope to achieve someday. I hope, one day, I can meet a girl that is direct, isn’t confusing, and loves my stupidity. Maybe in my dreams.